What happens in a coaching/spiritual counseling session with Val?
Sessions are booked ahead of time and can be done in person or by telephone. They are usually 60 minutes long.  During our initial consult we'll discuss what frequency is best for your situation. Many clients will work once a week while others work once or twice a month. It is entirely up to you. All sessions are held in strict confidence. During your session, I will use my various interactive tools and innovative processes to help you identify, resolve and release whatever has been holding you back. With couples, I use my own breakthrough dialogue techniques to assist you in improving your communication with each other. Occasionally I will assign homework between your sessions to encourage self-exploration and ongoing practice. This will facilitate greater success in achieving your goals.

What causes me to be down in the dumps?
Of course, any possible physical imbalances must be evaluated by a medical doctor. When there are no obvious physical problems, it may be that your feelings have been pushed down and have not been allowed free expression. The result is that your unexpressed feelings will go under ground into the subconscious where they will be turned towards yourself. Depression may result. That is why getting in touch with your genuine feelings and giving them a voice will often release the depression. You may feel lighter like a weight has been lifted off. What a relief! As a result of clearing out the old "stuff" you have created a new space to magnetically attract and intentionally receive what you want.          Read Val's Article on Manifesting

Why does it sometimes seem to be so difficult to change?
The pattern, program or block may have become imbedded at an early age. It resists positive change because the old territory is the most familiar even though it has brought suffering. It has been the only game in town for many years. On the other hand, the new positive territory is as yet unknown and undeveloped, maybe even with unexplored layers. That is why is very important to take things one step at a time and acknowledge yourself for the positive progress you are making. Especially when it appears that there is no progress. There actually is. Most likely it is vulnerable for you to admit the positive progress.

How long will it take to resolve my my issue?
This really is impossible to know for sure. Depending on what your issue is, it may be possible to resolve it in one session. However, for those long-standing patterns, it may take longer. Many clients will book a package of 10 sessions to support a more thorough change of their negative beliefs. We will monitor the on going results as progress is made. This is necessary because deeper layers of the old programs may keep surfacing so that more energy can be released and a new positive program established. This requires new awareness and an appropriate change of behavior.

I am feeling great as a result of my last session. Will this good feeling last?
Yes and no, yes and no. Life is forever changing. It is always a step at a time process. Each layer has it's own lock combination and a different kind of resolution. The more resolutions you experience the more of a foundation you have for meeting the next challenge. This is really an adventure of self-discovery. Not knowing where the rabbit is going to jump out next can be the thrill of it. With each new piece of the puzzle you are building a more fulfilled self. Therefore, it becomes easier and easier to sustain a confident feeling of joy. This is definitely new territory. You are going where you have never gone before. It has been said that when one attempts the impossible, there is no competition. What an opportunity for growth and learning. Welcome!

How can I reinforce the progress that I have made?
Being patient and compassionate eases the transition into your new way of being. As you gain familiarity with your new territory, you then gain trust. This supportive process requires a healthy tolerance for mixed feelings because you are challenging your old beliefs about yourself and transforming them. You are approaching the world differently. You are experiencing the world differently. You are seeing the world differently. You are feeling the world differently. You begin to see opportunities where you did not notice them before. This is exhilarating and scary (in a good way) at the same time. As the quality of your energy shifts, you recognize that you are on the right track. This establishes new trust in new territory.

Are you available for workshops and seminars?
Yes. I often travel in order to facilitate group workshops and to teach classes. I am also available for larger personal growth seminars. I have led 1-day, 2-day, 3-day, 5-day and 7-day events. I have given advance-training seminars in Sedona, the Bahamas, Puerto Rico, Hawaii, and Canada. Give me a call and we can discuss the details.

                      Questions Regarding Relationships

How will I benefit from relationship coaching if I'm single?
You are in the best of all positions! What a wonderful opportunity you  have to plan ahead and consciously design the fulfilling relationship that is right for you. This is the IDEAL time to not only expand your knowledge and develop new skills, but also to learn from your past mistakes so that you don't repeat them. By increasing your relationship intelligence you will become much more able to recognize and create a good quality relationship, and you will be less likely to end up in an unhealthy one. I believe that our divorce rate would be much lower if more people took the time to educate themselves about relationship success BEFORE they entered into a committed partnership.

What do I do if my partner doesn't want to get coaching or spiritual counseling with me?
I recommend that you start with yourself first anyway. With individual coaching you will learn new communication skills , and you will begin to feel better about yourself. As a result, your partner may notice a positive change within you and may begin to trust the educational coaching process more. This may encourage your partner to join in. When partners are reluctant to coaching, it is very often because they believe that needing assistance means something is wrong with them. Just because you're experiencing relationship problems does not mean that there is a need for therapy. Usually couples just need support in developing new skills for creating relationship harmony. That's where I come in.

Things have become very intense with my partner! What do we do?
When emotions build into intensity, I have found that it is very helpful to allow things to calm down before trying to communicate again. Otherwise, emotions seem to accelerate and no constructive communication can be established. Letting things go and then coming back together will help rekindle a constructive approach. When you are uncertain about what to do and you don't want things to intensify further, it might be wise to give me a call. That is one of the reasons why I am available by telephone so guidance can be given in the moment when it is most needed.

Do I have to express all of my feelings to my partner in order to bring about positive and permanent change?
Not necessarily. Your imagination is very powerful. With the help of your imagination we can help you  practice new ways of responding.  With this guidance you will achieve more valuable results within yourself and then with other people . This will give you a powerful edge.  As  you start to feel more at ease,  the people around you will begin to notice that something is different about you.  They may even treat you differently. This is sometimes an unexpected gift and shows the progress you have made.